Surrounded by Flying Monkey Psychology

‘Nothing is True. Everything is Permitted.’ – Vladimir Bartol

The first time I saw the Flying Monkey Psychology dynamic in FULL effect…it blew my fucking mind.

But, to avoid dragging this post way out…here are the dumbed down basics of flying monkey psychology.

One person is an abuser toward you, for example.
The abuser manipulates other people into being on ‘their team’.
The other people then attack you on behalf of the abuser.

Even more simple…over simplified if I’m being honest…

I slap you.
I tell your friends you slapped me.
Your friends slap you…for me.

This SOUNDS insane…even sinister.

IT IS.

Flying Monkey Psychology has been around since the dawn of mankind.

We are very familiar with the idea that some people will do ANYTHING to get what they want…to feel a sense of power…to grasp and maintain control…

What would make a person behave like that? – AN ENDLESS AMOUNT OF REASONS APPLY.

…to look like a ‘good guy’…or for a few extra bucks…or to gain some slight social advantage in a group…to be liked by mom or dad…to ‘win’ an imaginary competiton…

The reasoning doesn’t matter.

It’s garbage behavior, exhibited by the low self-esteem (and the losers) of the world.

TO BE CLEAR…

Anyone, of any race, in any culture, of either sex, from any income bracket…can be a TOTAL FUCKING LOSER.

Being a loser is ENERGETIC.

It has NOTHING to do with material trappings, or your bank account.

I’ve met face to face with millionaires, and doctors, company managers, and business owners who are self-hating, pushy, mean, angry, and deeply troubled…it doesn’t matter that they are wealthy.

The ONLY way these people know how to get by is playing ‘dirty’.

As a society, we have a bad habit of giving certain people, like the wealthy for example, much more credit than they deserve.

In other words, many of us are mentally lazy and make huge assumptions about a human being based on the surface level.

This is where the saying ‘FIRST IMPRESSIONS LAST.’ comes from.

Sometimes it’s dumb to make a snap judgement on how someone looks or comes off.

Sometimes it’s intuitive and life-saving.

Whatever your opinion, the fact is we ALL do it.

One persons seems cool…another person seems like a total dick-head…and it doesn’t matter if we’re right or wrong, because most of the time we’re gonna go with it anyway.

SO!

The reason I bring this up is because the abuser who manipulates a situation to put you at a disadvantage will leverage human stupidity and laziness against you when they can.

Plain and simple.

This is the CORE tactic of flying monkey psychology:

OTHER PEOPLES ENERGY.

The imagery of FMP is derived from ‘The Wizard of Oz.’ (Watch it…or at least get your Google on.)

It’s sending another person or a group of people to attack.

For the ‘victim’ It IS uncomfortable as fuck and very stressful…for some people life-destroying.

NOTE TO THE ABUSER: If you are the type of person to take on this behavior against others…you are a LOSER of MASSIVE EPIC proportions. I KNOW you walk around stressed, lonely, depressed, or paranoid on a daily basis…and even though you love to blame the world, it’s your own fault. Take some time to self-reflect on the moments you manipulated situations or got deep into ‘victim/bully’ mode, and figure out how to change this behavior…FAST. You are self-destructing and missing out on a lot of peace and happiness in your life.

Because I don’t like to write 50 page dissertations on a single subject, take some time to do a little research on the topic if you’d like.

I’m only here to make good people powerful.

So, I’m going to share…

Three things you ABSOLUTELY need to understand about flying monkey psychology:

ONE: NEVER waste your time and energy trying to get into a battle with a manipulator, or trying to convince them of ANYTHING.

Why?

Because acting emotional is EXACTLY what they want from you.

To them…it means they have control over you.

You are better off disengaging completely or as much as possible.

‘I don’t see you, I don’t hear you, and I don’t know you.’ type of energy.

Getting you to react emotionally is an old war-time tactic…one that drives you to make dumb decisions.

You ALWAYS want to have the ability to take a step back and make decisions based on what you logically understand is best for you…as a result…you create circumstances that are emotionally rewarding to you NOW and in the long-term.

For over a decade, I have been vacuumed into dramatic bull shit situations.

I was easily fucked with and manipulated…I was low self-esteem, and my anger was off the fucking charts.

This means I was often pushed around by people who lie to others and especially to themselves.

People who value ‘feeling good’ over self-responsibility and a sense of honest morality.

People who live on the ‘bully’ side of the low self-esteem spectrum.

You see…a bully and a victim are two sides of the same coin.

Remember…if the core foundation of flying monkey psychology is other peoples’ energy…YOU are the first in line.

Your energy is ‘blood in the water’ to a toxic ‘shark’.

You survive by just not being in the water.

If you participte in ANYTHING an abuser wants from you, you are giving them the energy or the feedback loop that they desire.

I can remember the moments that an abuser would get me to the point of absolute rage and anger.

I would end up screaming at the top of my lungs because I was so angry.

At that monent they would flash me a satisfied, and sort of evil, smile of accomplishement.

They got me.

They were looking for drama.

They wanted that loud, muddy, and ultra distorted energy to make them feel a (false) sense of power/control.

I, in turn, wanted something to confirm my victim mentality.

It was a win-win, if you can imagine.

Obviously, no one REALLY wins in the bully/victim dynamic.

So if a WIN is what you're looking for...don't play the game at all.

You will have to create mental, emotional, and physical distance...you will have to speak and maintain boundaries into existence.

TWO: Educate, or disengage with, the flying monkeys.

The good news about abusers, is that most of them aren’t as cunning as they pretend to be.

They usually only have one point of attack, and that is getting you emotionally rattled.

The assumption is that if they can’t get you upset directly, they will use other peoples energy to intensify the attack and create the drama they could not make themselves.

Cool.

Just be normal.

Apply the same boundaries to the flying monkeys.

Take a moment to simply tell the flying monkeys you are not getting along with the abuser, and that you’d rather not get wrapped up in a bunch of drama…no need to explain or justify.

Some of them will snap out of the trance and realize there’s really no problem.

Others, like the bully, will double down.

Disengage. Leave. Be Gone.

There is actually no abuser when you really take a close look at it.

When you continue to repeat the drama pattern you are in, especially when you have educated yourself on it, you are the only one to blame if you keep repeating the same mistakes.

Once you have learned, your problems become a choice…so…choose power.

THREE: Don’t become a flying monkey.

Remember…bully and victim roles are two sides of the same coin.

It’s about distorted energy, harsh emotions, and disturbing thoughts.

It literally does not matter if you play either role.

They both suck.

Whenever you are suddenly wrapped up in a story and have this overwhelming urge to ‘stand up’ for someone, take a step back.

Ask yourself if you are getting sucked in to a pointless battle.

On a few occasions I have found myself in that very position.

Your weakness will convince you to look at the world through the very same lens.

You will always be looking for other people who are weak like you.

…and you will be always looking for that ‘good versus evil’ scenario that you can step into.

Separate yourself completely.

Don’t get emotionally charged by someone’s drama.

Begin to shift the tides, and become emotionally charged by your own growth and by doing things that are amazing.

BONUS: Internal Flying Monkey Psychology

If you’re anything like me, you’ve been through so much shit that it’s become programmed into your psyche.

You hear a song, and your brain serves up the one fucking time you had a fight with your ex while listening to that song.

The flying monkeys reach far beyond the physical realm when you’ve been programmed…they now live within you.

Because I don’t need this to get confusing…just understand YOU are the source of your own flying monkeys.

The doubt.

The over thinking.

The low-self esteem.

The triggers and pet peeves.

The lack of boundaries.

The lack of goals, focus, and action taking.

It all adds up BIG TIME.

You MUST practice AUTHORITY in everything you do…in every area of your life…with everyone you interact with…everywhere you go.

It’s not easy.

Easy is just letting things happen…and letting things happen to you…and procrastinating on things you should be doing or should already have done.

Those are not authoritative moves.

I often call the act of just DOING ‘getting into your body’…exercise is the easiest way.

Even if you’re not athletic.

You need to give yourself some kind of a brain numbing expereince…something to stop the annoying or negative thoughts.

Even if it’s for a few minutes a day.

OPTIONS:

Transcendental Meditation.
BOOK: Strength in Stillness – Bob Roth

Ice Baths.
BOOK: The Wim Hof Method – Wim Hof

Exercise/Diet
The Four Hour Body – Tim Ferriss

LIVE YOUR FUCKING LIFE.

The more you DO…the less you think about bullshit…the more you have fond memories of the times you took action and how proud you feel.

Also…you gain more core confidence and the flying monkeys have ZERO power over you…they often will admire you and become friends.

Look, dude…at the end of the day…

Flying monkey psychology comes down to tribal victim consciousness.

It is the storyline that there’s always a good guy and there’s always a bad guy.

That there’s always good and that there’s always evil.

That there’s the big bad villain, and there’s all the victims who are desperate and need help.

If you know me at all, you understand that the victim mentality is for the most part bullshit.

Do people get victimized?

Sure.

There are some real motherfucking assholes out there, who will destroy everything in their path in order to get what they want.

They’re just fucking losers who don’t know how to manage power appropriately.

Don’t worry about them.

You don’t have time to worry about people like that.

When it comes to making good people powerful…power must be chosen.

There are many many good people who will choose a victim consciousness over and over and over till the day they motherfucking die.

They have all the opportunities laid out at their feet.

They have the connections…the money…the skills…the knowledge…

But they still choose to just self-destruct.

Because there is something addictive about being a victim.

There is something about the the wave of negative emotions, the depression, the anger, the roller coaster of up and down, the drama of winners versus losers and good versus evil, that sucks them in over and over.

Power is not about winning versus losing.

Power is not about good versus evil.

Power is about value…what you value…about holding to what you value, regardless of what other people want you to do, think, say, or be.

You see, we’re not talking about the flying monkeys, or the narcissist, or the toxic boyfriend or girlfriend, or the abuser.

We are talking about you.

Will you choose power, or will you throw yourself back into the drama and repeat the same bullshit mistakes that you have been fucking yourself with over and over your entire life?

You have to choose.

And does that choice mean your life is going to be magically easier?

Fuck no.

But I tell you it’s going to be a hell of a lot easier than if you continue to choose the path of weakness, the path of useless drama, the path of the victim.

It’s about completely separating yourself.

It’s about entering a new level of existence of a different game altogether.

It’s not easy.

It’s just better.

And sure, maybe you were victimized.

Maybe you did have people in your life that manipulated you so deeply that you thought that there was something wrong with you.

Your self-esteem got shot to the ground.

You became angry at the world.

You ended up lost, and alone, hungry, tired, and angry…maybe you got addicted to certain vices just to be able to make yourself feel better…a drug user…a stress eater.

Maybe you picked up weird habits that have nothing to do with anything but they somehow make you feel like you at least have a little bit of control over your life.

But the reason that you are educating yourself on this is so that you can break from the shackles of your ignorance.

You KNOW, that when you finally get to break away…and claim your mental health…and your physical health…and your physical environment…and the associations that you have with people…and the places that you go…and the foods that you eat…and the things that you drink…

…chosen specifically by you to give yourself the best human experience possible…that you will be living in an entirely different life that is leagues and leagues above the bullshit that you have had to go through up to this point.

PERIOD.

That is what it means to break away from the victim mentality.

That is what it means to break away from your toxic relationships.

That is what it means to turn away from the flying monkeys who try to attack you.

It means that your value is more important then just being liked by people, or having a great image for society, or avoiding rejection.

The way that you value yourself is paramount to everything else.

It doesn’t mean that you become a hardened, anti-social, evil piece of shit.

It’s not even a question of good or evil.

You are good.

But you also need power.

Part of adding that power to your life is about separating from the things that are making you powerless.

In the beginning, when you are uneducated and stupid, other people take advantage of your stupidity and make, or keep you powerless.

But once you get to the point where you are educated and you know that you have been duped and suckered into all these situations that make you powerless…

…because you now have the knowledge…

…should you continue to do what you are doing, YOU are the one that is making yourself powerless.

THAT is when your when power becomes a choice.

So…do you choose it?


AI GENERATED NOTES ON FMP (CHAT GPT)

“Flying monkey” psychology refers to a concept derived from the 1939 film “The Wizard of Oz,” where the Wicked Witch of the West uses flying monkeys to do her bidding. In the context of psychology, especially within discussions of narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, “flying monkeys” are individuals who act on behalf of a manipulative or abusive person, often without fully understanding or acknowledging the harm they are helping to perpetuate.

Key Elements of Flying Monkey Psychology:

1. Manipulation and Influence:

• The narcissist or abuser manipulates the flying monkeys into believing they are acting for a just cause or to protect someone. The manipulator often uses charm, lies, or half-truths to recruit these individuals.

1. Enabling Behavior:

• Flying monkey psychology enables the narcissist’s or abuser’s behavior by supporting their narrative, defending them, or even directly participating in the abuse or manipulation of the victim.

1. Lack of Awareness:

• Often, flying monkeys are not fully aware of the extent of the harm they are causing. They might believe they are helping or doing the right thing because they are being misled by the manipulator.

1. Psychological Dynamics:

• The relationship between the manipulator and the flying monkeys can be complex. The manipulator may exploit the flying monkeys’ need for approval, fear of rejection, or desire to be part of an “in-group.”

1. Types of Flying Monkeys:

• Unwitting Accomplices: These individuals are often friends or family members who genuinely believe the manipulator’s narrative and are unaware of the manipulator’s true nature.
• Willing Participants: These are individuals who might understand the manipulator’s nature but choose to assist for personal gain, loyalty, or out of fear of becoming a target themselves.
• Co-dependent Enablers: These individuals might have their own psychological issues, such as co-dependency, that make them more susceptible to manipulation and control.

Psychological Mechanisms:

• Cognitive Dissonance: Flying monkey psychology troops often experience cognitive dissonance when their actions conflict with their self-image as good, helpful people. To resolve this dissonance, they may double down on their belief in the manipulator’s narrative.
• Projection and Scapegoating: The manipulator often projects their own negative traits onto the victim, convincing the flying monkeys that the victim deserves the treatment they are receiving. This scapegoating diverts attention away from the manipulator’s actions.
• Gaslighting: Manipulators often use gaslighting to distort the flying monkeys’ perception of reality, making it harder for them to see the truth about the situation.

Impact on the Victim:

• Isolation: The use of flying monkeys can isolate the victim, making them feel unsupported and misunderstood.
• Emotional Distress: The victim experiences increased emotional distress from being targeted not only by the manipulator but also by individuals they may have trusted.
• Erosion of Trust: The involvement of flying monkeys can erode the victim’s trust in others and damage their social and familial relationships.

Understanding flying monkey psychology is crucial for recognizing the dynamics at play in abusive or manipulative relationships and for helping victims navigate and escape these harmful situations.